|No, I hadn't been involved with any married women before I went to Japan and to be honest, such a relationship would never appeal to me then. But Japan...it changes the way you think.|
I don't know the exact reasons why it doesn't seem so wrong out there. Maybe its due to the attitude towards sex in Japanese culture. What other country will publicize school girls as sex symbols? What other country has such an obsession with bondage and 'pain' sex? Japan is just plain weird when it comes to sex and I think the longer you stay out there, the more you begin to lose normal inhabitions. Could it be that only now is Japan waking up to the sexual freedom of western countries?
But think about this, could it be less objectionable simply because you are expecting it to happen? I mean, how many guys (or even girls) have gone to Japan without expecting to have some sort of sexual relationship? When your expecting it and it comes along, do you really stop to think about things like marriage?
Another thing is that maybe you feel like you can always get away with it. In the west, if you have an affair then one of the greatest fears is probably getting caught. But in Japan, no matter how long you've lived there, your an outsider. It's like you don't have to follow the rules of Japanese society so much, if something bad happens then you can hop on the plane and fly back home. Thus getting involved with a married woman doesn't seem to have so many problems (until later...)Think about how many people go on holiday looking for sex, why? Because they know that if things get too difficult then they have an easy escape in going back home. Does this apply to the gaijin in Japan too?
I don't know if this helps, but think about it.