|Those allergic to AAAs|
July 30 2001 at 4:56 AM
|Johnny Chicago |
Response to Asian American Women Strike Back!
|I agree that there are a large number of Asian American women, who find the AAA mentality repulsive. Like MP, I try to downplay my AAA membership. Most Asian American women have a shared AAA stereotype ingrained into their collective subconscious. |
The general image is that of an overweight buffoon searching for a submissive "china doll" and spanking his monkey to Sailor Moon cartoons. Even though it's never explicitly stated, once a girl hears the names in my dating history and my travel interests, it becomes obvious that I'm attracted almost exclusively to Asian women. Nevertheless, the girls I date often refuse to categorize me as AAA because I don't fit into their ugly AAA pigeon hole.
While I've come across several AAA that fit into the freaky stereotype, most of the guys I've met who are into Asian women are pretty cool. So I don't really know how the AAA picked up such a negative connotation. Here are a couple of my theories:
1. Traditionally, dating outside of your race was seen as socially unacceptable if not a sin against your deity of choice. While most people in this day and age are not outright bigots, dating within your own race is still the norm. Therefore, anyone who dates outside their own race must be somehow unusual. And if you date almost EXCLUSIVELY outside of your race then you must be an outright lunatic. Few people are explicitly taught what their society considers normal or abnormal, but "one of these things is not like the other" is a game kids learn when they are old enough to watch "Sesame Street."
2. All women like to feel special. Most of my success with women does not come from clever pick up lines or witty conversation, I'm just honest and upfront about why I like the girl as an individual. If she's pretty, I tell her so. If she says something profound, I comment on her intelligence. If she has a great sense of humor, I laugh at her jokes. I have never tried to tell a girl that her pussy was tight, but apparently that works for certain people out there Compliments only work if they are sincere. And no woman will take your affections seriously if she thinks you only like her because she's Asian. After all, how much fun is it to play the "Gucci Bag Gaijin" to a Shinjuku kogal, who just wants to show you off to her friends?
I guess my approach is to let the girl discover your AAA after she gets to know you. You don't need to advertise your preference up front. On the other hand, I don't think that you should try to hide your preference like a dirty secret either. After all...there really isn't anything wrong with finding Asian women more attractive than Caucasian ones. It's just a matter of personal taste.
If your current girl asks why all your old girlfriends have names like Tomomi, Yoko, and Ji-Yoon just be honest. "I think Japanese girls in general are attractive, but there are 100 million of you. I'm standing here right now with you because you're (honestly tell her what you're doing there)," is my usual answer. If you can't think of a reason to justify being with the girl other than she's Asian, then you should probably use the confrontation as an opportunity to move on.