May 8 2001 at 6:50 PM
Response to I'm losing my grip.
|Like I said to you last night on the chat, I really really feel sorry for you that you have to go through this. You'll learn this on your own in the future, you can never change your parents, sad isn't it?! You just have to deal with them.|
My parents never said positive things about me just like your parents. What do I do about that? --Nothing. I love my family, but I don't expect anything better from them,,,they're the expert of bitching and complaining about their daughter. Plus now, I have other family (in-laws) who loves me so much and tells me how great I am.
My father has cancer and had major surgery last year. He smokes and drinks a lot. I told him numerous times that he needs to quit those bad habits and live better. Did he quit smoking? No, still smokes and drinks a lot. I had to tell him if he doesn't eat better and quit those bad habits, he won't be able to see my kids. His reply was "then, why don't you get pregnant now so I won't miss out". How pathetic is that?! It's like, he doesn't want to change his life style but he wants us to change ours. Since then, I never give them my opinion on anything.
I know I got little too excited here and not making any sense. I can bitch about my family all day long. Anyway, my point is, you can't change them so just pretend you listen to them. But at the same time, don't ever give up your dreams and don't let them run your life.